by Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D. Few events in life bring about such warm and wonderful feelings of anticipation as the announcement of a pregnancy. As soon as you and your family learned you were expecting, you naturally began to have hopes and dreams for the future. These hopes and dreams take on a life of…

Read More

by Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D. “To the outside world we all grow old.  But not to brothers and sisters. We know each other as we always were.  We know each other’s hearts. We share private family jokes.  We remember family feuds and secrets, family griefs and joys. We live outside the touch of time.” —Clara…

Read More

by Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D. “Whatever you do, you need courage.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson   Loss brings uninvited pain into our lives. In opening to the presence of the pain of your loss, in acknowledging the inevitability of the pain, in being willing to gently embrace the pain, you demonstrate the courage to honor the…

Read More

by Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D. Someone You Love Has Died You are now faced with the difficult, but important, need to mourn. Mourning is the open expression of your thoughts and feelings regarding the death and the person who has died. It is an essential part of healing. You are beginning a journey that is…

Read More

by Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D.   A paradox is a seemingly self-contradictory statement or situation that is in fact often true. The paradox of mourning we will consider together in this article might, at first glance, seem self-contradictory, but as I will reveal, it is actually a forgotten Truth with a capital T. It’s a…

Read More

by Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D. Few events in life are as painful as the death of your spouse. You may be uncertain you will survive this overwhelming loss. At times, you may be uncertain you even have the energy or desire to try to heal. You are beginning a journey that is often frightening, overwhelming…

Read More